After a breakup, what next?

After a breakup, what next? You might have had the worst or the "best" breakup, but most times the pain still lingers and pierces the same. Currently, I am going through the stage of what next? After my long-term relationship of three years ending, I felt like the world had closed on me. Weirdly, for those who know me, they wondered why this hit me so hard. They thought I ...

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There is no shame in Abuse

Children Survivors of Domestic Abuse

We sat almost in a circle, six women from different backgrounds, regions, and families. We felt like we belonged. Together, in each other, we found a purpose. We had a vision. We had a shared trauma. Every one of us had experienced parental trauma. Each one of us interpreted it differently. In that circle, we would talk about our stories and determine what we would abandon and the things we ...

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Angry Mom

Why were our Parents especially mothers so abusive?

Why were our parents especially our mothers so abusive when we were growing up? I just touched a nerve by that statement. Probably you are thinking, how dare she call mothers abusive? Who does she think she is? Indulge me because I am a mother and I was raised by a Queen who really punished us when we strayed. As a mother to an almost seven-year old boy, ...

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This is not the relationship for you.

This is not THE Relationship for You.

This is not the relationship for you. When people look at Ciara especially women, they ask "God When!" They comment, "What prayer did you commit to God?" However, Russell questioned "Why do people never ask me the prayers I placed?" Most of us assume love is putting up with shitty treatment, roller coaster of emotions, the dumping of energies, and neglect of one-self. Most of us have been guilt-tripped that ...

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